Relationships are one of the most significant parts of our lives, but they can also be challenging, complex, and emotionally demanding. Every couple experiences ups and downs, but when conflict, disconnection, or unresolved issues start to take a toll, therapy can provide a structured and effective way forward.
At VPC, we use the Gottman Method – a research-based approach to help couples strengthen their connection, navigate conflict, and rebuild intimacy.
At The Victorian Psychology Clinic we recognise that couples counselling requires a tailored, evidence-based approach. In line with our values, we aim to work collaboratively with our clients, referrers and other professionals involved in our clients care including general practitioners, other allied health professionals and psychiatrists.
Understanding Relationship Challenges:
Every relationships moments of tension, but ongoing difficulties can leave partners feeling stuck, misunderstood or emotionally distant. Some common issues that bring couples to therapy include:
- Communication breakdowns: Feeling unheard, constant misunderstandings, or struggling to express needs.
- Conflict and recurring arguments: The same fights happening over and over, often without resolution.
- Emotional disconnection: Feeling more like roommates than romantic partners.
- Trust issues: Including betrayal, secrecy, or difficulties rebuilding after infidelity.
- Life transitions: Adjusting to parenthood, career changes, or other major shifts.
- Different needs or expectations: Whether around intimacy, finances, parenting, or household responsibilities.
Couples therapy is not just for relationships in crisis – many couples seek support proactively to strengthen their bond, improve communication, or prepare for major life changes.
The Gottman Method: A research- based Approach:
The Gottman Method is one of the most well-researched and widely used approaches to couples therapy. Based on over 40 years of relationship studies, this method focuses on strengthening connection, improving communication, and managing conflict effectively.
Key Elements of Gottman-based therapy include:
- Assessing relationship strengths and challenges: Understanding the patterns that help or hinder connection.
- The Sound Relationship House: A structured framework that supports trust, commitment, and emotional intimacy.
- Building effective communication skills: Learning how to express needs and concerns without escalating conflict.
- Managing conflict constructively: Understanding why conflicts happen and how to approach them in a way that fosters understanding rather than defensiveness.
- Rebuilding and strengthening friendship and intimacy: Deepening emotional and physical connection.
- Developing shared meaning: Strengthening the foundation of the relationship through shared goals, values, and dreams.
- Rather than focusing on who is right or wrong, the Gottman Method helps couples identify patterns, improve emotional responsiveness, and foster a relationship that feels safe, supportive, and fulfilling.
How we can support you
At VPC, we provide Gottman-informed couples therapy to help partners build healthier, more connected relationships. Whether you are facing ongoing conflict, feeling distant, or simply wanting to strengthen your relationship, our psychologists can guide you through evidence-based strategies to improve:
- Communication
- Rebuild Trust
- Deepen connection
At VPC, we are here to help.
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